We constantly get asked about wedding and invitation etiquette so, in honor of Emily Post, We are going to feature a weekly etiquette post. For today, let’s talk about some do’s and some don’ts.
- Do allow plenty of time. We suggest sending out invitations about eight weeks in advance. Make sure that you allow plenty of time for addressing, assembling & mailing. Sometimes it takes longer than you think!
- Do remember that Organization is Key. Lists, Lists, Lists. Nothing will make your life easier than being organized. When gathering addresses, excel will be your best friend.
- Do not be afraid to ask for help. Make it a party. Invite friends over, pour some wine and get things done quicker while spending time with friends. Make it fun!
- Do your research on guests. Although sometimes it happens from time to time that you won’t know the names of those accompanying your guests and that’s okay. But if you do your research, it certainly makes the invitation appear warmer and that’s important.
- Do not forget…when in doubt ask. Using the correct titles is very important, it makes your guests feel flattered that you took the time to get it right. So, when in doubt, ask before addressing.
- Don’t forget that inserts are key. Things such as maps, directions or hotel information for out-of-town guests is very important. It will not only make it easier for them, it will also make things easier for you as it alleviates a lot of questions.
- Don’t include registry or gift information with your invitation. People will ask if they are unsure of where you are registered. Make sure not to put it on your invitation, it’s just in poor taste.
- Don’t do multiple mailings. This is when careful planning comes into play. It’s not a good thing to do a mailing and see how many people reply with a “yes” and then invite additional people. You’d be surprised how quickly word gets around. So, make sure that you cover all your bases while doing one mailing.
- Don’t address invitations with labels. It’s certainly easy to use labels but it just doesn’t look the same. Make sure to handwrite invitations or have them printed. You will like the way they look. I guarantee it.